Most people treat their will like a time capsule. They draft it once, tuck it away in a drawer, and assume it’s done. Forever. But life doesn’t work that way, does it? Jobs change. Families grow. Marriages end. Laws shift. And suddenly, that carefully crafted estate plan from a decade ago doesn’t reflect your current reality at all.
So how often should you actually revisit your estate planning documents? The short answer is more frequent than you think. The longer answer involves recognizing specific triggers & understanding when minor tweaks become urgent necessities.
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Why Estate Plans Go Stale
An estate plan isn’t a static document. It’s a living reflection of your life, your assets, and your wishes. When circumstances change, your plan needs to adapt. I’ve seen too many families end up in probate court because someone’s will still listed an ex-spouse as beneficiary or named a guardian who’d moved overseas years ago.
The problem is that most folks don’t realize their plan has become outdated until it’s too late. You might think everything is fine because you created a will 15 years ago. But did you account for that second marriage? The new grandkids? The investment property in another state?
Estate planning documents lose relevance gradually, then suddenly. One day everything seems aligned. Then you realize your power of attorney names someone who passed away three years ago.
The Three to Five Year Rule
Here’s a baseline that estate planning professionals generally recommend: review your estate plan every three to five years. Even if nothing major has happened. Even if you think everything’s still accurate.
Why? Because tax laws change. State regulations evolve. What worked brilliantly in Texas or North Carolina five years ago might not be optimal now. Federal estate tax exemptions get adjusted. Probate procedures shift. Perhaps your executor has developed health issues you weren’t aware of, or maybe their financial situation has changed dramatically.
Think of it like getting a routine checkup. You go to the doctor even when you feel fine, right? The same principle applies here. A scheduled review with an estate planning attorney can catch problems before they become crises.
That said, waiting three years might be too long if certain life events occur.
Marriage and Divorce
Getting married or divorced should trigger an immediate estate plan review. Not next month. Not when you get around to it. Immediately.
When you marry, your new spouse typically gains certain legal rights to your estate, whether your old will mentions them or not. If you’ve got children from a previous relationship, this gets complicated fast. You’ll want to ensure everyone is provided for according to your actual wishes, not just default state laws.
Divorce is even trickier. In some states, divorce automatically revokes provisions naming your ex-spouse in your will. In others, it doesn’t. For example, in Texas and North Carolina, there are provisions that treat a divorce spouse as having predeceased the testator.
I think the emotional weight of divorce makes people postpone updating their estate documents. They’re exhausted from the process. But this is exactly when you need to act. Change beneficiaries on life insurance policies, retirement accounts & bank accounts. Update your healthcare proxy and financial power of attorney. You should revisit your will to update beneficiaries and fiduciary designations. This will prevent any complications later, when you aren’t around to sort it out.
When Children Enter the Picture
Having a baby changes everything about your estate plan. Suddenly you need to name guardians. You’re thinking about trust structures to protect assets until your children reach adulthood. You want to make sure there’s enough life insurance to cover their education and living expenses if something happens to you.
But here’s what people forget: you need to update your plan as your kids grow up too. That guardian you named when your daughter was two may not be someone you daughter knows well or gets along with when she is older. The trustee managing funds for your son made sense when he was young, but now he’s got a gambling problem.
Children getting married also warrants attention. You might want to consider trusts that protect your child’s inheritance in case their marriage doesn’t work out. Not the most cheerful thought, I know. But it’s practical.
And when grandchildren arrive? Time for another review.
Major Financial Changes
Bought a house? Sold a business? Received an inheritance? These financial shifts need to be reflected in your estate planning documents.
Let’s say you’ve built a successful business over 20 years. Your old will from before the company existed probably doesn’t address business succession planning. Who takes over? How do you prevent family conflict over business assets? What happens to employees? These questions require sophisticated planning that a basic will simply can’t accommodate.
Real estate in multiple states creates another layer of complexity. If you own property in Texas and a vacation home in North Carolina, you might face probate proceedings in both states unless you’ve structured things properly. A revocable living trust can help avoid this headache, but you need to actually fund the trust and keep it updated as you acquire or sell properties.
Significant increases or decreases in wealth matter too. Maybe your estate was well below federal estate tax thresholds when you created your plan. But years of smart investments have changed that picture. Or perhaps the reverse happens: financial setbacks mean your previous planning strategies no longer make sense.
Health Issues and Aging Parents
A serious health diagnosis is a wake-up call. If you or your spouse faces a major medical condition, your estate plan needs immediate attention. You’ll want to ensure healthcare directives are current. Is your medical power of attorney still the right person? Have you documented your wishes about end-of-life care clearly?
Aging parents bring their own considerations. If you’re named as executor or trustee for a parent’s estate, you need to understand those responsibilities and make sure your own plan accounts for the possibility of inheriting assets. You might also need to coordinate your planning with theirs to maximize benefits and minimize tax implications for the whole family.
Capacity issues can’t be ignored either. If the person you named as executor or trustee is experiencing cognitive decline, you need a backup plan. This is one of those things people really don’t want to confront, but putting it off only makes the situation worse.
When Laws Change
Tax laws are constantly shifting. The federal estate tax exemption has fluctuated significantly over the past two decades. What’s exempt from taxation this year might not be next year, depending on legislative changes. Both Texas & North Carolina have their own quirks when it comes to probate procedures and property laws.
Texas doesn’t have a state estate tax, which is great. But it does have community property laws that affect how assets are divided & inherited. North Carolina follows different rules as a non-community property state. If you’ve moved from one state to another, your estate plan definitely needs updating to comply with your new state’s requirements.
Court decisions sometimes reshape estate planning strategies too. A ruling on trust taxation or creditor protections can make previously solid plans less effective. This is why working with an attorney who stays current on legal developments matters so much.
Red Flags That Demand Attention
Certain situations scream for immediate action. If someone named in your estate plan has died, you can’t just leave their role vacant. You must name an alternative to ensure your plans are fully met.. If you’ve had a falling out with your designated executor or trustee, that needs addressing before emotions escalate further. In fact, you won’t likely have an individual you fell out with serving in a fiduciary role.
Moving to a different state? Your existing documents might not comply with your new state’s requirements. Getting remarried after being widowed? Blending families requires careful planning to avoid unintended disinheritance.
Have your beneficiary designations on retirement accounts and life insurance been reviewed recently? These designations typically override what your will says, which surprises a lot of people. I’ve seen cases where someone’s will left everything to their current spouse, but their insurance policy still listed their mother because they forgot to update the beneficiary form.
Don’t wait for the perfect moment. There isn’t one.
Practical Steps for Staying Current
Set a reminder on your calendar to review your estate plan every three years. Actually schedule it like a dentist appointment. Make it non-negotiable.
Keep a list of major life events that should trigger a review. Tape it to your filing cabinet where you store important documents. Marriage, divorce, births, deaths, major purchases, moving states. When one of these happens, you’ll know it’s time to call your attorney.
Create a simple checklist of who is named in various roles throughout your estate planning documents. Executor, trustee, guardian, power of attorney, healthcare proxy, beneficiaries. Review this list annually & ask yourself if these people are still the right choices.
Don’t try to make major changes without professional guidance. DIY amendments can create more problems than they solve. A codicil that conflicts with your original will or a trust amendment that wasn’t properly executed can throw your entire plan into chaos.
The Bottom Line
Your estate plan should evolve as your life does. The will you created 10 years ago served its purpose then, but it probably doesn’t reflect your current situation accurately. And that gap between what your documents say and what you actually want to happen? That’s where family conflicts, probate nightmares, and unintended consequences breed.
At minimum, commit to reviewing your plan every three to five years. Better yet, review it whenever something significant changes in your life, your family, or your financial situation. Work with an estate planning attorney who understands the specific laws in your state and can guide you through updates efficiently.
Yes, it takes time. Yes, it costs money. But compare that to the alternative: leaving your loved ones to sort through an outdated mess during an already difficult time. That’s not a legacy anyone wants to leave behind.
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